Jorge replied
Hi Wilma!
I'm very surprised, sad and disappointed for getting my project (where I put all I can) affected by sometime which could have been solved in a 10 minutes conversation, specially when I live so close to the volunteers and I work together at all times.
The only time I had to interrupt the conversation was, as I remember, when some opinion was stated in a choice of words and tone which could result in a longer quarrel with the local guy we were with. The approach of the project is soft, since we are in a rural area of Mexico and a strong confrontation with their reality could harm the relationship between the locals and me, as head of this idea.
I volunteered before and I believe that travellers, different from tourist, do what we do to immerse and understand the culture. For example, I didn't like the strict structure and way of some projects, but it's part of them, and I can't go and confront them. Something similar happens with machismo; we gradually are making some changes but we are still far from being as open as Western Europe, and that is ok, since is part of world's diversity and this diversity is the reason of people like us to travel.
If I asked more times to girls to rest is something I don't do on purpose, even though I asked at all times which tool the team wants to use. I guess is something part of my culture, as well as argentinians drink mate, for example.
Well, I guess you did it for helping but please next time approach to your host first, is not cool to harm the projects where we dedicate our time, money and hearts.