Adrian replied
Rapha, you did a lot of mistakes while you volunteered for us - mistakes that affected guests experience in the hostel or made the hostel lose money. There is a language barrier between us because we don't speak in our first language, because my first language is Romanian and your first language is Portuguese, and we communicate in English - so I might say things like - I'm expecting you to do your job - even if this is only a volunteer position.
I've never told you that you are an employee - why would I say that if you are a volunteer? No, I've asked you to do your job or I told you that I'm expecting you to do your job. It's a figure of speech. Next time when I'm in a similar situation I will say that I'm expecting you to do your volunteer duties because I don't want to be misunderstood.
But I was never agresive to you and your review is portraying me as if I was.
If you think being a volunteer means that you have no responsibility, I'm sorry, but I don't agree with that. It's ok when people make mistakes, all volunteers make mistakes in the beginning, and its ok, we're human, but when you are doing the same mistakes over and over again - I will be disappointed. I had to show you 4 times how to change a locker lock - and it's not rocket science - there are 3 simple steps to take, but for people doing it for the first time it might be confusing. This is why during the training period, and every time I was giving you feedback - I asked you to write it down if you have problems remembering things - rules of payment, locks, anything - write it down! But I don't think you ever did because you continued doing the same mistakes over and over again.
Your excuse every time was "I have some problems, I've been out of myself lately, it will not happen again". And it did happen again. Simple mistakes but with big consequences.
I even told you that you are probably the smartest volunteer I've ever had, so at one point I was so frustrated with your mistakes I even told you I didn't understand why you had so many problems adapting to the reception duties.
Also, a lot of my conversations with Rapha took place on the whatsapp volunteer group because when she had a problem during her shift she would ask it there - so I would answer it in the group. I didn't expose her, she wrote on the public group. And because every situation is different, I was using it as an example to what to do in a situation like that for the other volunteers reading. Going forward I will stop offering any type of feedback on the volunteers group because I do not want volunteers to feel exposed.
Also Rapha left before our arrangement on World Packers because she was hit by a female guest. Although I offered my support and empathy when it happened, I also told her that the situation could have been avoided if she acted differently. The guest came and asked her to pay the next day - to which Rapha refused because we don't accept that. For an hour after that the guest tried different methods to convince her. After an hour, both frustrated, Rapha showed the guest with a very "in your face" attitude that she pushes the panic button, to which the guest approached her and hit her.
So after that even if I will take all the necessary steps that a situation like this does not happen again, even if I will offer my support to Rapha, it's also my job to tell Rapha what she did wrong. And she never accepted that 1. She shouldn't have waited for an hour to ask for help - she should have pressed the panic button as soon as the guest started to insist. 2. Whenever you press the panic button you have to do it in a discrete way - because it can be perceived as a provocation. The security company will arrive in 3-4 minutes and the situation de-escalates automatically.
I can understand that this was a traumatic experience for her - and I'm here for everything that she needs. But I don't think it's fair that she started attacking me and put the blame on me.
She said that her glasses were broken when she was hit so I offered to pay for them. I didn't allow her to work at reception anymore because I thought it would be too traumatic for her and she agreed to stop her shifts. I also told her that she can stay in the hostel without volunteering for as long as she needs, but she decided to leave the next day.